An old friend of mine just called to invite me to her birthday party tomorrow. Of course I didn’t forget her birthday…I just didn’t know that she was having a party esp. because she hadn’t spoken to me for almost 5-7 months (can’t remember) so I haven’t gotten her anything yet.
This made me realize that this is going to be the fourth time I attend her birthday gathering. Which means I’ve been here in China for four whole years already. Lots have changed.
4 years ago she had a gethering at her “elder sister’s” place. Her “elder sister” being a family friend. 4 years ago she told me that she loved school (true, because she was always in time and never skipped a single class), she was a “very happy” person and that she had her whole life planned out. She plaanned to graduate, get married and then have kids. At that time, I was like “wow…so you can actually say you’re ‘happy’…wow”.
3 years ago, I don’t think we did anything that special. LOL. We hung out, I remember the deal was that she had to choose her own present (I know, I really do suck at buying presents) and she didn’t so I bought dinner. Awkward.
2 years ago she had her party here at school. I even did a little Windows Movie Maker clip (my first clip ever). LOL. She started partying a lot (uh oh?), and went out a whole lot more than I did. But she had a “curfew” so she was still alright.
Last year she had her party here at school again. Unfortunately, most of the people who ended up showing were my friends (50%), another 25% who showed up were our common friends. That was weird. But she’s the one who told me to invite as many people as I could so that’s sort of what I did. I bought most of the food/booze so she had no reason to complain.
Last year was sort of a bad year for her…basically she had no choice but to drop out of uni (but it was a life she chose). So now she’s working. Plans do change, we just have to roll with the punches.
So this evening I’ll have to go shopping for a present and some booze. Don’t be surprised if I end up with the bottle and no present. Like I said, I suck at buying presents. The last bday party I attended, I only brought a bottle. Awkward.
My inability to buy presents is due to the fact that I don’t care much for presents myself. The best presents are the ones you can gobble up and not worry about where to keep them for the next century. The last present I received was at a random day. It was a “thank you for being so wonderful” present: a box of chocolates. Yes, believe it or not, some people do think I’m wonderful…maybe it’s because they don’t take the time to read my blog, LOL but yeah.
But buying someone chocolates for their birthday - esp. handing it to them during a party is the most inconsiderate thing ever (esp. because they don’t have much choice but to share it) so a box of chocolates is definitely out. *sigh*
Most people here in China like to give stuffed toys as gifts. If you don’t know what to give your friend; you give them a stuffed toy/animal…no matter how old they are. These things are not necessarily cheap though…but I don’t like buying my friends that. Hello? We’re adults. If you want a cat that looks like Garfield, tell me and I’ll go buy you a real ginger marmalade cat. Please don’t make me buy you something that should be bought for your child…even if you don’t have one yet.
Ok whatever. I’ll figure it out later. 