Current Mood:
Cool & Cool & Cool
There were several debates on ICS this past week. One that came up was the difference between career-oriented women and family-oriented ones. Made me think about the conversation I had with my elder sister a few weeks ago.
Before marriage and a child, my elder sister was the typical career-oriented woman; it was promotion after promotion. All of a sudden, she’s got a financially-secured family which allows her to stay at home so she now feels home is where women belong (at least until the child starts schooling). She now feels career-oriented women should consider staying at home a bit, for the sake of their children. She told me that it’s something I should consider, if I were to ever have a child.
My reply was that both career-oriented and family-oriented women have their reasons for doing whatever it is they’re doing - that no one is wrong.
However, due to the fact that I am in university and I don’t have a family of my own, people are quick to assume that people like me are career-oriented. I believe, like family-oriented women out there, career-oriented women can be divided into groups.
Deep down inside, most of us are actually family-oriented women. We put what’s most important to us right at the very end of the road because at the end of the day, we’re saving the best for last. Some of my family-oriented friends who decided to start a family before finding a proper job, are struggling to make ends meet. They don’t have enough money for this, they don’t have enough money for that, paying the bills make them all cranky and take their anger out on their kids or spouses, they have to save for holidays abroad, or worse: their kids have never been abroad because they can’t afford it.
Money is what makes the world go round, unfortunately!
The better your career = The more money you make
The more money you make = The more things you can afford
The more things you can afford = The happier your kids & spouse
The more happier your kids & spouse = The happier you are
The happier you are = The more you’ll be willing to give to charity
The more you give to charity = The more the world benefits from people like you.
As for men who feel women should stay at home, they’re just being sexist. Guys generally want to have their cake and eat it too. They’re supposed to be all great with logic but somehow, nothing they say ultimately falls into place. Several examples:
- They want women to be intelligent and educated. Yet they want us to stay at home and do house chores (you don’t need a high school diploma for that one).
- They don’t want us to have a job in order to earn enough money for ourselves. Yet, if we date a relatively wealthy guy to sustain our genetically inherited OCD for shopping, they call us a gold-digger.
I only know one career-oriented women in my life (I won’t mention her name). As for celebrities…Jeniffer Aniston would probably be a good example of a career-oriented woman: She’s wealthy, she had a hot husband (now ex), a great career, fame, etc. but she was still not into the child-bearing thing. I totally respect her though. Like I said earlier, both career-oriented and family-oriented women have their reasons for doing whatever it is they’re doing - that no one is wrong.
Bored
Flirtatious
Esctatic
But things will get noisy this weekend I’m sure. Anyway, hope everyone’s had a day worth remembering! Last and certainly not least: Happy Birthday, Jesus!
